Why discipline matters in dating
I’ve been having physiotherapy for my shoulders lately. It’s not a new problem – it goes back to my teenage years, and things have flared up again recently after a period of being manageable. My physio has given me exercises to do at home. And I know they help. The problem? Now that the acute […]
Can AI help you with dating?
Since last year, I’ve noticed a new trend: women telling me about AI-generated answers to their dating questions. What we used to discuss with girlfriends or our therapist is now conveniently answered in seconds by our favourite bot. But to what extent can we trust the answers we’re getting?And what happens when we make relationship […]
Finding peace at Christmas
The busy season is upon us, and this close to Christmas, I completely understand if dating goes on the backburner. At this time of the year, everything can feel extra hard. The holidays often come with additional tasks, high expectations and emotional overload. Very few families or relationships live up to the idealised Christmas image […]
Slow Dating – the secret to lasting love
After working with me, strengthening herself, and learning how to filter for true connection, J. started a relationship a couple of months later. Now, after one year, she says: “We’re in love and planning our life together.” I remember it well. She wanted a partner who is loving, supportive, and attentive, for a relationship built […]
Beware of Perfectionism
Have you ever thought “I’m holding out for the perfect guy and won’t accept anything less”? Or maybe you’re overanalyzing every detail of a date, looking for signs of what might go wrong? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Perfectionism can be a sneaky obstacle in the journey to finding love, especially if you’ve […]
The right kind of attention
We all want to be seen and appreciated – it’s a universal human need. It’s that sweet feeling of being noticed for who we are, of someone recognising and appreciating us while also accepting our flaws and quirks. But not all attention is equal, and not all of it is good for us. While the […]
Lasting love needs inner balance
Just the other day, I had a chat with a friend and we agreed that dating later in life has a lot of pluses. Life experience, more clarity, self-awareness and maturity – all of that is a huge asset when we’re looking for someone who matches us in all the important ways. But that doesn’t […]
The new trend of Slow Dating
In our fast-paced world the idea of Slow Dating is gaining traction, much like the slow food movement that emphasizes quality and enjoyment over speed. Slow Dating is a new trend that encourages singles to take a more deliberate and thoughtful approach to finding a life partner. It is about taking the time to get […]
Finding a man to settle down with
For a long time, I was really frustrated that men just didn’t seem to appreciate me. I was doing my best to be a good person, to be friendly, fun to be with, easy-going, understanding, an attentive listener… But men didn’t want to commit to me. Something was off. But what was it? When being […]
The dark side of people pleasing
As a recovering people pleaser, I know what it means to place other people’s wants and needs before my own. A lot of time and energy can go into scanning our environment for clues what we can do for others and how to keep everyone happy and relaxed. Why people pleasing is not pleasant While this […]